Spring is both the best and worst time, depending on where you are in life. As a “would-be” college senior taking an extra year, watching most of my best friends around me about graduate is one of the most difficult parts of the year. And it’s not just me. This is a hard time for those graduating too! Don’t get me wrong, in the cocktail of emotions everyone is feeling there is excitiemt for the future, relief for the hard work to be over, and pride for graduating. But these hard goodbyes to people and places, the fear of change, or other tough feels seem impossible to deal with at times.
This doesn’t apply to just graduation and spring–it happens with any big change happening in life. Can you relate? Maybe you’re going through a breakup, accepting a new job, moving to a new state, or facing any change in your life–good or bad.
SO WHAT DO YOU DO?
First, listen to yourself! Feel the sadness or fear, anxiety, and sit with it for a second. Why are you feeling this way? What may be triggering it? Is it logical? The more you deny your feelings, the harder they will try to rise to the surface. Once you acknowledge your feelings, moving forward on is easier and faster than denial.
Second, tell yourself it’s okay to feel this way! If you are feeling it, it is a valid emotion.
Third, ask yourself
What opportunities can come from this change?
This question is a great way to reframe your situation. You can control how you look at your life, starting with how you perceive the little joys along with great challenges.
So ask yourself where the opportunities for growth can come from in this change. Then get excited about them! Maybe you will have time to pick up that hobby that you’ve been wanting to do. Maybe you’ll have more time to devote to that group of people you wish you spent more time with. Maybe you have the opportunity to meet a ton of new people!
Life is made up of a cycle of changes, and the more you are able to flow with and accept them, the happier you can be in your everyday life!
Hang in there,