Today I bring you the motivational/directional phrase:
Show Up Before You’re Ready
There are so many things that I find I want to do, but don’t actually do them…and the most common culprit behind my block is that I DON’T FEEL READY. But you know what I’ve learned? You never feel ready! What makes me feel qualified or even comfortable doing anything is the confidence I’ve gained from both succeeding and failing at what I want to do. So, what can you do about it?
- Accept that you don’t feel ready….then do the thing. Sometimes just recognizing the fact that you may not be (in fact, most of us aren’t) experts at anything the first time we try it. Going into an activity with a blank slate (i.e. no expectations) makes it easier to push yourself to take that first step.
- Hold compassion for yourself. When you expect someone to say “you’ll get it next time” or “you tried your best” to yourself, it provides a safe space that helps you step into the arena and become vulnerable. (If you have not come accross Brene Brown’s work, you must. She does amazing work, especially that around vulnerability). Who would want to try something when they knew they were being judged no matter what or how they did it. So why hold that environment for yourself when there is something deep down you know you must try for yourself?
- Repeat the activity. Only through experience (sounds a lot like expert, right?) can you feel comfortable with that new level of growth that eventually makes you feel READY to move onto the stepping stone after that.
And thus, opportunities arise and life takes us to places we never could have dreamed. Stay true to yourself and don’t be afraid to express your authentic self to the world. That is the reason you are here, right?
Much love, as always,