Today I bring you the motivational/directional phrase:
Show Up Before You’re Ready
There are so many things that I find I want to do, but don’t actually do them…and the most common culprit behind my block is that I DON’T FEEL READY. But you know what I’ve learned? You never feel ready! What makes me feel qualified or even comfortable doing anything is the confidence I’ve gained from both succeeding and failing at what I want to do. So, what can you do about it?
- Accept that you don’t feel ready….then do the thing. Sometimes just recognizing the fact that you may not be (in fact, most of us aren’t) experts at anything the first time we try it. Going into an activity with a blank slate (i.e. no expectations) makes it easier to push yourself to take that first step.
- Hold compassion for yourself. When you expect someone to say “you’ll get it next time” or “you tried your best” to yourself, it provides a safe space that helps you step into the arena and become vulnerable. (If you have not come accross Brene Brown’s work, you must. She does amazing work, especially that around vulnerability). Who would want to try something when they knew they were being judged no matter what or how they did it. So why hold that environment for yourself when there is something deep down you know you must try for yourself?
- Repeat the activity. Only through experience (sounds a lot like expert, right?) can you feel comfortable with that new level of growth that eventually makes you feel READY to move onto the stepping stone after that.
And thus, opportunities arise and life takes us to places we never could have dreamed. Stay true to yourself and don’t be afraid to express your authentic self to the world. That is the reason you are here, right?
Much love, as always,
What makes you safe makes you small.
What a phrase. Do you feel like you aren’t living up to your potential? Do you feel like you are stuck and want to be somewhere else in your life? Maddy Moon goes into this amazing concept on her blog. It goes along with the theory that if you never leave your comfort zone, you will never grow. Or that “you gotta risk it to get the biscuit” and “nothing great was ever achieved without sacrifice”.
What opportunity scares you the most? What do you want to do even if you fail? Is there something you’ve been wanting to do, but something is holding you back?
You know what I say? Just go for it.
Why do you want this outcome? Is it something that will make you whole? Will it allow you to express yourself more fully in your life?
What has been holding you back? How can you be comfortable be uncomfortable?
Bottom line: trust yourself to be the most authentic expression of you. That’s why you are here after all, isn’t it?
Love, as always,
“A journey of one thousand miles starts with a single step”
Well today is one of those days where I feel like I am able to take a step back (or a few) and really look at my life. From the big picture. I realized that it’s all just a journey. This time of year is the time of reflection before the new year starts in a few weeks, and its amazing what some observations can do.
I recently heard that you can’t get to where you want to go unless you have a map and, more importantly, your bearings. You can’t use the map unless you know where you are, which is why this time of year is so insightful!
Taking a step back from this thought, it made me realize that life is just a journey. We are constantly on the move, and looking up where we want to be heading down the long run, but dealing with the highlights and obstacles on the road where we are at the moment. And sometimes you need to look back and say, “I think I want to go there again” or “do that thing again” or “let’s not go down that road again”.
What are the things you learned from this year? Things that made you feel good, deep down to the soul, things that were tough to go through but gave you clarity into your true soul. Where are you going to set your sights for now that you know here things?
For me, I know that I can’t overwhelm myself with responsibilities (even if I enjoy them all), and that I want to be a health coach. I am just a girl trying her best to stay true to her most authentic self and help others have the strength to as well. Let’s take care of ourselves this year.